When You’re Choosing Between Two Good Options
- Jen Howlett
- Mar 13
- 1 min read
Most decision tools focus on obvious right vs. wrong.
But real adulthood is often:
Good vs good
Growth vs growth
Security vs expansion You’re not choosing between disaster and success. You’re choosing between two viable paths.
That makes it harder — not easier.
When both choices are reasonable, the real question becomes:
Who do I want to become in this next season?
Why Good vs Good Is Hard
• No obvious red flags
• Both options require loss
• Both require courage
• Both shift identity
The tension is not confusion. It’s responsibility.
The Identity Lens
Ask:
• Which option stretches me in a direction I value?
• Which version of me does each choice reinforce?
• Which discomfort feels developmental — not draining?
The Future Reflection Exercise
Imagine 3 years from now.
Which choice would you respect yourself for attempting — even if it was hard?
Clarity often lives in future integrity.
Reflection
Which option feels aligned with growth — not just comfort?
This one feels very mature and executive.
